Ugandan singer Chosen Becky has reportedly tied the knot with her longtime photographer, Abdul a man who once visited her home in the company of her ex-partner, Amir, the biological father of her children.
What has shocked many is the recent celebration Becky organized an event to introduce Abdul to her children as “Dad.” But for kids who have always known him as “Cameraman” and whose real father is still alive, this sudden shift isn’t just confusing it could be emotionally traumatic.
The children, born out of Becky’s past relationship with Amir, are now being told to rewrite their reality. Where there was once love between Mum and Dad, they now see it shared with someone who used to just take family photos.
Worse still, reports suggest that Becky doesn’t even communicate with Amir anymore. If that’s true, it means the children are also being cut off from their real father not because he passed away, but because of adult decisions. That kind of emotional disconnection can leave lasting scars.
Let’s be real:
Adults can move on. They can remarry, start fresh, and fall in love again. But children should never be forced to forget where they come from.
A stepfather may become part of their lives, and with time, he might be loved and respected. But that should come organically, not through sudden parties and new titles like “Dad.”
Love from a step-parent can complement, but it should never replace the rightful place of a biological parent unless the parent has been truly harmful or has willingly walked away.
From everything seen, Amir appears not to be missing but missing out, through no choice of his own.
Final thoughts:
In situations like this, the best interests of the children should come first.
They deserve the truth, a chance to know their father, and the freedom to love both him and their mother’s new partner.
Because one day, when they grow up and start asking questions, no party or photo can undo the silence they may have been forced to live in.
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